Sunday, August 10, 2008

Tantric Secrets for Men...

... is the title of a book I've had in my collection for many years. Written by Kerry Riley, this book explores male sexuality based on the teachings of both Taoist and Hindu Tantra. On a lark, I gave my copy to Mr. Smith to read after returning from our trip to LA.

I've read the book several times and have garnered something new with each reading. It was my hope that by understanding how a man could be a stronger lover through the practices of Tantra somehow I could become a better lover, too. I like this book because the author stresses the importance of connection and communication. It is the key to a long and healthy relationship in his estimation and I couldn't agree more. Giving the book to Mr. Smith to read was my way of letting him know many of my beliefs. It was also my hope that he'd find value in the author's ideas.

Boy, did he!

After reading a chapter on the importance of retaining his essence (not orgasming with every sexual encounter) he discovered something that resonated with him. He agreed with the author that ejaculation for him... especially now during a time of stress and the low ebb of age... depletes rather than repletes him. He was so excited by what he'd read he's decided to talk to his sons, ages 17, 19 and 22 about what he's learned at 52. Book sales are about to soar!

Since learning about withholding his ejaculation some incredible things have happened to our encounters. Not only is he experiencing positive changes, I am too. I'm learning details about male orgasm I've not known, so from here on out, these are my observations about our encounters of the past nine days (yes, we've had sex every day... ours is a new relationship).

The first is that I did not realize how much my partner's orgasm meant to me. No orgasm seemed to mean I hadn't done something right. Nothing could be further from the truth. Good sex doesn't have to end in both partners coming. Good sex comes from both partners enjoying the connection. Mr. Smith has not had an orgasm since Friday, August 1st. I, on the other hand, can't seem to stop.

The intensity of our encounters is escalating. I've noticed physical changes in Mr. Smith's erections. He is definitely stiffer, the head of his cock seems larger to me when I take him into my mouth. Physically, he responds to my caresses more quickly and with greater urgency. He seems more open and has been sharing many fantasies with me. He takes the lead in our encounters, often to my bottom's absolute delight. He exudes power and confidence and I can't help believing it's all because he's decided to retain his ejaculation.

I had no idea that a man could control his orgasm to the point that Mr. Smith has been controlling his. I sense that his decision to delay orgasm is adding a new layer to his awareness of his sexuality. I see the satisfaction in his eyes when he knows he's taken me over the brink. His decision is heightening my response as well.

When we're enjoying one another, I become a very focused girl. I know he has decided not to orgasm and the decision takes a great deal of pressure off of me. I can pleasure him and I know he will respond to what I do to his body, yet I find our focus is on me and my orgasms.

Did you notice that's 'orgasm' plural? Because that has been the result. I've been coming with an intensity I never dreamed possible. My orgasms build quickly and their release is beyond what I've encountered before. I don't just squirt, I gush. I drench everything beneath me. I create puddles of cum.

Last night, Mr. Smith and I enjoyed a lovely dinner on my patio. Once the sun went down, our clothes came off. I straddled him in his chair and rode his stiff cock in a frenzy of pure lust. When the orgasms began, I sprayed. They rolled in waves, drenching both of us as they splashed to the concrete at our feet. Do you know how surreal it is to discover your feet in a puddle of your own cum? I could feel an orgasm building and then I would listen as it landed on the patio. They came in wave after delicious wave until I couldn't determine where I ended and Mr. Smith began.

I wonder (and trust me, I will ask) if being able to bring me to such a wanton brink empowers him. I think about what we will experience when he finally decides he is ready to ejaculate. Will there be an outflow of energy that takes time to recover? Will it be as much fun to build him back up again in the days that follow? Will I find myself laying next to a sleeping man, yearning for more? I guess we'll only know once he makes his decision to cum.

8 comments:

  1. The very best part of this relationship is how much communication you two have. I think it is what the rest of us spend so much time looking for. You make it seem so easy.

    Your 'dinner' on the patio sounds sooooooooo nice. We have already asked you to go into product endorcement and sales but now I have another career for you. How would you and Mr. Smith feel about doing some erotica? I swear girl you could make a fortune and help so many in the process!

    I love you!!!

    PK

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  2. CeeCi, this is a technique very useful for the older man.
    Once your partner realises that she loses nothing by you not orgasming.
    This is a Tantric practice Mel and I used frequently, we found Tantra did great things for our energy levels, physical, emotional and spiritual.
    Great post girl.
    Love warm {{{hugs}}},
    Paul.

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  3. Ceeci and Mr. Smith,
    You two had better be careful. First there was the aftershock in LA, what's next a volcanic eruption.

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  4. PK:: Erotica? As in filming what we're doing? I'll have to run that one past Mr. Smith. Likely, it will start another delicious round of fantasies. He can play Director and I'll be his willing, wanton Starlet.

    Dinner was divine, but dessert was spectacular!!!

    *hugs*
    CeeCi

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    Paul.:: As I wrote, moving beyond thinking his not orgasming could have been a failure on my part was the only barrier there was. It didn't take me long to move beyond it as every encounter was more delightful than the last. His responses to my lightest touch and even to the sound of my voice was nearly instantaneous. He made his decision to orgasm last night after nine days. In spite of all the fantasies of where and how he would spill his seed, when the time came he let loose while buried deep inside my pussy! It was electrifying. This morning he declared he would have an orgasm in under five minutes and then did... in two. He was grinning about that one.

    We'll be going back into another cycle this week. This has been an amazing experience for both of us.

    ((((hugs))))and Love.
    CeeCi

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    Nick:: I'd say 'thar she blows' but is wasn't me doing the erupting this time! Get the book Mr. Nick. There is discussion about female ejaculation in addition to other wonderful secrets.

    Follow the link in the post and order a copy... it's on sale right now!!

    *hugs*
    CeeCi

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  5. OK, Ceeci, you are very persuasive, I've ordered the book. I was however tempted by other choices that may have been more suitable for us: 1. Life's too short for Tantric, 50 shortcuts to great sex and 2. The Complete Idiot's Guide to Great Sex.

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  6. Nick~ Not only do I think we need that book too, but I personally want the Complete Idiot's Guide!!!!!

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  7. •Nick:: Yippee!! You won't regret your purchase. I have a suggestion. When it arrives Don't Read It! Hand it to your wife first and have her read it. That way she'll know what you're learning and she'll be ready for all the wonderful things you'll want to try. She'll also be able to tell you if anything the author suggests sounds wonky or uncomfortable to her.

    "Life's Too Short for Tantric"? Puleaze, you better not have ordered it. Great sex isn't about shortcuts, it's too wonderful to put into thumbnails and expect miracles. Plus, Tantra has been around for a very long time (read a couple of millenia). I bet some of those old guys are still going at it *g*.

    Is the "Complete Idiot's Guide" like those "Dummies" books? Personally, I think that anyone who's as open and willing to explore as you could write the book!!!

    I can't wait to hear what you think of your purchase!

    *hugs*
    CeeCi

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    •Eva:: I know your comment was directed to Nick, but I'm going to pipe up... get the book... and not the Idiot book!

    *hugs*
    CeeCi

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  8. Ceeci, its so good to read of your experience with this. Yay!!! I had very similar experiences with M in terms of him being really receptive to my touch. His stamina was phenomenal for any man, but a man of his age is pretty amazing...literally hours of intercourse without stopping for any rest, only to change positions. We had a blast and there were many times we'd have sex like that for days and he'd go home...knowing full well it might be months before he saw me next. It was more important to him to just enjoy me and holding his orgasm made that more possible for us.

    Thanks for the great book suggestion!

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